Though we all live in this world - and every day is one that the Lord has made - reason to rejoice and be glad, it may seem on social media that every day is a great day - unless you or someone you know is a public lamenter or complaint-validation seeker -- yikes!
BOO to that...
... but every day is not.
Jesus assured us that we will have trouble in this world. That we would experience earthly dilemmas while trying our best to serve heaven. That things will not always come easy, but there's a Comforter for those days and strength as a supplement - these showing up, when we place our true Joy in the Lord
I find it interesting that some are able to keep up healthy social interaction when they might be in a tough spot, personally. Most tend to stay from brute honesty until we come out strong. Until it's safe to testify. And I think, sometimes, that's wise. But what do you do, in your private time, when you don't feel like thinking, or moving, or talking, or facing the realness of life?
You'll have to do the exact opposite.
You have to think, talk, move, and face real life - so here are my necessaries -
7 Tips for Your Darkest Days.
1. Resist the Temptation to SHUT Everything Out:
Take a walk. Feel the breeze on your skin. Feel the sunlight on your face. Go to the park. Bring your journal. I know for me, the open space of the outdoors is a great reminder of just how big God is. It reminds me that He knows all, holds all, and has no bounds in function. His creation screams "I'm in every detail and aware of every detail. Your darkness is but light to me." Staying home and away from people who love you may not be the best bet.
2. Resist the temptation to tell everyone. Tell someone. That's enough.
The worst thing you can do is allow for the wrong someone to be privy to very sensitive information in your life. The "bigger" worst thing would be to have grown a dependence on a person, rather than on the Lord. I have benefited greatly from having people in my life - for accountability and prayer, and just a listening ear. But the benefit ends where these relationships are misunderstood or mishandled. Ultimately, the trials of life should draw us into greater dependence on the Lord - His provision, opinion, and direction. There is nothing wrong with having a friend - but more than anything, talk to Him - He is the one who can reveal Himself as the very relief you'd need.
3. Play Worship Music - Not the Wrong Music:
The last thing you need in a difficult moment is a song that expresses precisely what you're feeling. It's not! With no help from the song, you're already there - in a sort of despair. Even in moments when I'd rather silence uninterrupted I'd find with one swipe to the right that I needed to hear the song of the Lord sung over my life. I needed to hear a song that shifted what was being declared internally. I'd find that I needed to sing over myself and charge my environment with truth and joy. A simple song of worship, as intrusive as it might be to your otherwise long day or "peaceful" car ride, takes you right to the place you need to be - even while you may have to admit that on your way you didn't even want to go. But His presence is home. Take every opportunity while your heart is in remission, to tell God the truth. You may even end up playing a song on repeat. You have no idea what may change when the right song breaks through.
Dr. Carrie Lane of the University of Texas - in her study of grief, found that 88.8% of those who weep experience an improved mood. Only 8.4% of subjects reported feeling worse after crying. To that I say that I too, have had to learn not to pack in the grief like it's a treasured keepsake. I've had to release it. And I admit I am a bag of tears, but for some reason, it's always been easier for me to cry tears because of happy moments. But there's honor in releasing the grief. No shame. Let it out. And let God collect your tears. He knows what to do with them.
5. Write Out Your Prayer. Not only is writing therapeutic, but a journal suggests there's an exclusive conversation taking place between you and your God. Face your heart on paper. Trace it against His heart. Look at what you've been petitioning for.. wait in expectation for His faithfulness, in His way. Fix your eyes on Him, and don't do so in pessimism. Remind yourself that He is for you. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight." (Proverbs 3:5-6). Write it out.
6. Don't jump to conclusions about your circumstances.
Or at least don't jump to the wrong conclusions. God is a big God. He can give you wisdom. He can heal your heart if you give Him time.
7. Jump to conclusions about your God.
Let His praises be found in your mouth. Even when it hurts. Even when it's hard. Tough times draw out your beliefs. Is He good? In your heart of hearts? These are the days that determine what you believe. Say that He is good.
1 Praise the LORD, my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name.
2 Praise the LORD, my soul, and forget not all his benefits—
3 who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases,
4 who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion,
5 who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.
6 The LORD works righteousness and justice for all the oppressed.
7 He made known his ways to Moses, his deeds to the people of Israel:
8 The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.
9 He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger forever;
10 he does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities.
11 For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him;
12 as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
13 As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;
14 for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust.
15 The life of mortals is like grass, they flourish like a flower of the field;
16 the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more.
17 But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children--
18 with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts.
19 The LORD has established his throne in heaven, and his kingdom rules over all.